feat(ui): fix controlNet models

- update controlnet state to use object format for model
- update model-parsing helper functions to log errors
- update nodes components, types and state
- remove controlnets from state when models are loaded and the controlnet's model is not available

invokeai/frontend/web/src/features/parameters/components/Parameters/VAEModel/ParamVAEModelSelect.tsx

@@ -37,6 +37,7 @@ const ParamVAEModelSelect = () => {
       return [];
     }
 
+    // add a "default" option, this means use the main model's included VAE
     const data: SelectItem[] = [
       {
         value: 'default',